Feeling lost and unsure of what’s next is a universal experience and part of being human. We all go through these seasons throughout our lives, and they can feel painful, isolating, and lonely. I used to dread these seasons of life, but recently I’ve found a sense of gratitude for them. 

Each time I find myself stuck or craving clarity, I learn something new about myself and also how to use this time most effectively. I’ve created a list of ways you might be able to identify if you’re in the unknown and some practices to help you find clarity and get unstuck.

When I received my first tarot reading from a friend in 2017, I remember feeling seen and understood in a way I never had before. I loved how the cards took me on a journey while reflecting back what I’d been experiencing in my life. At the time, it felt like magic. I immediately bought my first deck and dove headfirst into learning everything I could. I was constantly drawing cards and journaling about them. I would even sit at my favorite bar, and do readings for anyone who would let me. 

Every June, like clockwork, I fall into a pit of sadness. I start to panic about having plans and making the most of my summer. My future happiness and success are now solely based on how many beach bonfires I’ve been invited to. (If you’re wondering, the answer is, and always has been, none. In fact, I’m not sure I even know beach bonfire people. (It's a rigged game.)

Opening up my Zillow app and perusing new listings while sipping coffee has become part of my morning ritual. I’ll look at a listing and try to picture myself there. How would I arrange the furniture? What decor would I need? Which nearby coffee shop would become my spot? If I moved to New York, what would the New York version of me be like?

I’ve never had an affinity for crazy plot twists. I always look a movie up on IMDB before watching, and these days I prefer to rewatch a familiar show over seeing something new. Maybe that’s why I love rom-coms so much. There’s a certain comfort in knowing the story will be tied up in a nice little bow by the end.

You might be wondering what kittens have to do with crutches. The short version is that my cat went into labor the night before I had ankle surgery, and I welcomed two kittens and two crutches into my life simultaneously. The long version of how this all happened is quite a story in itself and maybe I’ll tell you someday. Right now I want you to join me on another journey.

You might be wondering what kittens have to do with crutches. The short version is that my cat went into labor the night before I had ankle surgery, and I welcomed two kittens and two crutches into my life simultaneously. The long version of how this all happened is quite a story in itself and maybe I’ll tell you someday. Right now I want you to join me on another journey.