Playing To Win: When You Take Control Of Your Life Instead Of Letting Your Life Control You
Episode 38: Playing To Win
In this episode I share the vulnerable shift I’m making from “I have to” to “I get to.” I talk about how grief has impacted the way I live my life and why I cling to routines and what’s known. Listen to this when you’re ready to release the limiting beliefs holding you back from creating the life of your dreams.
Episode Details
Summary
In this episode, I’m reflecting on a mindset shift inspired by the Seattle Seahawks and the difference between playing not to lose and playing to win. As I move into my second football season without my dad, I’ve been thinking about how that same idea applies to grief, joy, and the way I move through my days.
For a long time, especially during grief, my focus has been on avoiding a bad day. I’ve tried to create control through routines, lists, and getting as much done as possible. But somewhere along the way, even the things that nourish me, like journaling or taking a long walk with Cauchy, started becoming tasks instead of experiences.
This episode explores what it might look like to shift from simply getting through the day to asking, how can I make today the best day it can be? Not by avoiding difficulty or pretending hard emotions are not there, but by allowing joy, magic, presence, and unexpected goodness to exist alongside them.
I also share about a yearly tarot ritual that suddenly felt disconnected this year because I had turned it into another item on my to-do list. That experience became a reminder that the practices we choose to support ourselves do not need rigid rules. We can return to them differently, change our perspective, and let intuition lead.
This is an invitation to notice where you may be moving through life defensively. Where have meaningful rituals become obligations? Where are you trying not to lose instead of allowing yourself to fully participate in the experience?
Maybe the shift is as simple as moving from “I have to” to “I get to” and remembering that the day in front of you has never happened before.
This episode is for you if…
You’re ready to let go of what you “should” be doing to create more joyful days
You’re an over-thinker who’s ready to release the constant to-do list
You find yourself always thinking of what comes next and want to learn to be more present in the moment
You’re ready to stop playing small and are ready to create the life of your dreams
You’re on a grief journey and are looking for comfort and understanding in your experience
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Kim Kogane is a writer and intuitive guide helping you navigate the tender in-between seasons. She lives in Seattle, Washington with her dog, Cauchy, and three cats. Learn more about Kim
